Matthew 19:3 – 10
“God’s design”
3 And
Pharisees came up to him and tested him by asking, “Is it lawful to divorce
one's wife for any cause?” 4 He answered, “Have you not read
that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, 5 and
said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to
his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no
longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man
separate.” 7 They said to him, “Why then did Moses command one
to give a certificate of divorce and to send her away?” 8 He
said to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce
your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. 9 And I say
to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries
another, commits adultery.”[a]
10 The
disciples said to him, “If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is
better not to marry.”
1. What is happening?
a. The Pharisees test Jesus about
divorce “for any cause.”
b. Jesus teaches them from God’s
design.
2. What is
Jesus teaching?
a. [v 4] There is a creator who made them
“male and female.”
b. [v 5] The “leave and hold fast”
principle.
1.) Why leave? BECAUSE people with a
safety net tend to use it when things get difficult.
2.) Why hold fast? BECAUSE marriage does
not work without absolute trust.
c. [v 6] The “one flesh” principle.
1.) Genesis: Eve was just created out of
Adam (act of creation).
2.) Now God puts them back together as
“one flesh” (act of creation).
3. What’s
the problem?
a. “Divorce” [v 7]
1.) Allowed by Moses. [v 7]
2.) The command was to give a
“certificate of divorce” effectively allowing her to remarry. BASICALLY Moses was protecting the woman.
b. The real problem Jesus identified
“hardness of heart.”
1.) “Hard heart” is being unresponsive.
2.) “Hard heart” is being unwilling.
3.) “Hard heart” is also another way to
understand “selfishness.”
c. [v 8] “… but from the beginning it was no so.”
1.) God’s design prevents events that
lead to divorce.
2.) When the design is violated, pain
follows.
d. Reasons for divorce and remarriage.
1.) [v 9] “Sexual immorality” [Paul will
build on the “hard heart” theme and add “abandonment.”
2.) Remarriage after divorce on the
grounds of a “hard heart,” Jesus calls “adultery.”
4. Here’s
the thing:
a. God considers marriage as HIS work
(like creation).
b. Anything that violates that, HE
takes personally.
c. Why?
1.) Because God designed man and woman to
be permanently together: “one flesh.”
2.) Because God used marriage (and
adultery) as an illustration of relationship between Himself
and His people (Israel and the church).
d. This is difficult to accept. Even the disciples reaction is “it is better
not to marry.”
1.) [vv 11 – 12] Jesus expected those who
followed Him, who did not like this, to live like
eunuchs (no sex).
2.) Rest of the Bible: sex outside of the
marriage of one man and one woman for life breaks
God’s design.
5. The
dangers of not following God’s design? [1 Corinthians 6:15 – 20]
Do you not know that
your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and
make them members of a prostitute? Never! 16 Or do you not know
that he who is joined[d] to a prostitute becomes one
body with her? For, as it is written, “The two will become one flesh.” 17 But
he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him. 18 Flee
from sexual immorality. Every other sin[e] a person commits is outside the
body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. 19 Or
do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom
you have from God? You are not your own, 20 for you were bought
with a price. So glorify God in your body.
a. [v 15] Believers are members of
Christ. (Prostitute is in keeping with the image of the temples
of Corinth.)
b. [v 16] Paul equates sex with the
marriage formula from Genesis, as quoted by Jesus.
c. [v 17] Sexual immorality is against
the person’s “own body.”
d. [vv 19c – 20] “You are not your own, 20 for you were bought with a
price. So glorify God in your body.”
Keep back your servant
also from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me! [Psalm
19:13 a]
e. Once sexual sin grips a person, it
can drag us to hell.
6. So how do
we recover?
a. Innocence can never be regained.
b. Some things once broken can never be
fixed. (“own body” Paul used)
c. Since we cannot go back and undo
then we must move forward.
c. It starts here:
1 John 1:9: If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins
and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
1 John 2:4 – 5a Whoever says “I know him” but does not keep
his commandments is a liar, and the truth is
not in him, 5 but whoever keeps his word, in him truly the love
of God is perfected.
1.) Acknowledge that God is right and we
are wrong.
2.) Start doing the right thing.
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